We are so vain that we even care about opinion of those who don’t care about us or those who we don’t care for.
Why do some people crave so much to become popular? Be it face book, be it twitter, be it any other social site.. we can find many examples behaving in an over friendly and over smiling way, just to gain attention and come in the good books of others. Now..the others usually include those who are not friends..in fact some are totally strangers. What is the need to become friendly with strangers? Simple conversations are fine..but what with unnecessary hi’s, hellos, good mornings, good nights, how are you, how goes the day questions? Such behaviour clearly shows the over friendliness and a desperate desire to fit in, where they are rarely welcomed. Still..they try to break in the comfort zone. What do they usually get? Cold replies..after a series of forced normal answers !! May be that’s why they don’t have friends in real world.
Let’s name such people as ATAS(All Time Attention Seekers). So, You ATAS’s make so many lame attempts to gain popularity and the funny thing is you do so for those people whom you know, don’t care for you..at all. You want people to pay attention to you all the time. You want to feel important, you want other people to miss you. But the truth is, people dont give a shit about you freaks. And that they aren’t even remotely interested in attention seekers. You people are just naturally egotistical and need the attention of others to make yourselves feel valued as a person. Although rarely I see you getting what you want. You only end up forging shallow friendships with those who are considered “cool” in order to socially strive.
You know what? I feel pity for you..and nothing else. You people seem so hungry for attention. On the rare occasions that you are given value, you feel so happy and proud of yourselves. On the opposite, that is, in reality..when you are not even thought of and just made fun of, I feel sympathetic towards you.. of course not seriously. I just feel that urgent need to mock you.
Its not that wanting attention is bad.. but the way you beg for it in various nonsense ways just goes above my head. I don’t know what you get by gaining popularity and praise that is begged and not originally comes from the heart. Also, it irritates others. You may resent this, but regardless of how lovable you think you are, regardless of the station to which you feel you belong, you are almost exactly where you now belong socially. If you don’t like your present degree of social acceptance, you can change it by positive planning and positive action but right now you are where you asked to be. If you are lonely and “haven’t a friend in the world,” it is because you are negative and careless. If your group is restricted to a casual acquaintance or two from the office, someone from the apartment across the hall, someone you met on train or bus, it is your own acceptance of an unnecessary situation. If you run with a gin-and dance-crazed group–it’s a group of your own acceptance. If you are completely satisfied with your degree of social acceptance, this post is not for you except as it may give you a sharper understanding of the needs of others.
There is a definite connection between social-mindedness and friendship. You cant be friends with everyone and vice versa. The social-minded and socially approved person is more friendly, cooperative, easy to get along with, and reasonably modest. The only advise that I can give you is : Don’t force yourselves into others’ life. Try and be positive so that ‘others‘ wish to gain ‘your‘ attention.
Alright..I guess I have put all my points over here. Lets end the post now. Tc. have a nice day!! Also, you ATASes, please go and do something fruitful other than silently pleading for popularity, and spare us your drama. Thanks in advance!