You don’t get anywhere if you don’t depend on people around you. – Paulo Coelho
Very true. But don’t you breathe with your own nose, eat with your own hands and mouth and remain alive with your own heart beating inside your own body?
When you have people in your life, with whom you interact and live, its hard to remain aloof for long. No matter how much you want to be with your own self for a while, they wont leave you alone. I really don’t know if this is good or bad. I think its good to have people in your life who care for you so much, but then it’s actually a little frustrating when you don’t get any time for yourself, just because the people who care about you so much wont leave you alone or may be you don’t want to make them sad or leave them wondering that why would you not respond them or be with them in the way it has always been, in the way that usually suits them, makes them happy and satisfied.
Why are people always averse to being alone? Why do they feel that if a person is alone, he is undergoing some sort of depression or that if he lives alone, he is a questionable character? Why don’t they understand that alone does not mean lonely? If a person wants to speak less or remain alone for sometime, then he must not be disturbed. People must understand that being alone is not fearful or disheartening or unhappy. Being alone means sans the notional crutches in our mind which we get so accustomed to and dependent upon. These can take the form of one’s kith and kin, near and dear ones. Some are part and parcel of life, others are self cultivated. Their existence and presence in our life breeds mutual expectations. Man is a social animal does not mean that man cannot be alone. It is not always important to adhere to the so called rules that one has to be with the community in order to survive. That if you are alone, you are being selfish. A person connects with people because he likes companionship, but it is not true that companionship only makes a person complete. If you cant connect to your self being, you cannot connect to others. And in order to remain connected to the world, its imperative that you remain connected to yourself, your inner being. And just that is why being alone, spending some time in solitude, without interacting to anyone, is essential.
The problem is people don’t understand this simple concept. “Man is a social animal”, this phrase is inked in their small minds and it acts as oxygen for another term, known as Society.What people need to understand is that sometimes solitude is like a short break from day-to-day life to re-energize , rejuvenate and re-focus your mental faculties. They need to work upon the phrase of “He is a free bird”, from time to time. They need to let the person breathe through his own nose and think through his own mind.
As Parker Palmer has explained this in his book A Hidden Wholeness : Solitude does not necessarily mean living apart from others; rather it means never living apart from one’s self. It is not about absence of other people — it’s about being fully present to ourselves, whether or not we are with others.
You must enter in
To the small silences between the leaves,
You must take your time
And touch the very peace
They issue from.
Tc people. Have a nice weekend!