So the other day I attended a comedy show by a famous comedian. When he was about to conclude the show, he made the following statement. “Till the time I keep making jokes, you would keep laughing, the moment I stop joking, you guys would stop laughing. What after that? You‘ll go back to your set of emotions. The ones that control you throughout the day and the very ones that make you act in a certain manner.“
It was true that we went to see his show because we needed a good laugh. And upon contemplating on his words, I also realised the extent to which we depend on others for our laughter and happiness. That we are not really happy within ourselves. We need to justify the money that we pay to feel that happiness, that ray of hope in our life. Why is it that we have no control over our own emotions, that they are tied to all things external?
Because we give too much credit to what’s out there, displayed in front of us, that is pleasing to our eyes and mind at that moment. Because we don’t really trust our inner being and therefore don’t really make any efforts to nurture it. I agree that one cannot keep smiling or laughing the whole time in order to be happy but there can be a sense of fulfillment within oneself that keeps us calm and content.
Feeling happy when things go our way and feeling annoyed, unhappy in situations that are opposite, that’s quite normal. But have you ever noticed that those feelings of annoyance linger on for too long as compared to the happy ones? That does happen because we ponder on the bad stuff in our life too much than the good stuff. Of course the bad teaches us a lot but when we see the lesson, mustn’t we act upon staying happy again?
Sadness has its own importance, but it should be focused upon a little less than all the happiness within us. You see, it‘s important to be aware of all the positivity, satisfaction, cheerfulness that we have in ourselves. It would do us more of good to channel that positivity so that when we get sad, we are able to overcome easily.
It‘s easy to continue being sad, but if we are used to being happy, it gets easier being happy and calm even in bad situations. A person can stay happy by following a whole lot of ideas, the most important being lowering the expectations and focusing on one’s work and responsibilities.
Other more important ways include focusing on physical and mental health, spending time with people who make us happy, focussing on improving ourselves instead of paying too much attention on flaws of others, evaluating our successes vs our peace of mind, learning to let go of unhappy thoughts, awakening the self spiritually by meditating, stay grateful. Tracking our happiness on regular basis is important.
Happiness brings success and prosperity, not only in terms of money but within you as a person as well. Strive to be happy as and how you can afford to be. It may take time in the beginning but if you make it a practice to stay happy, you sure will find it within you at all times.